Useful Tips for Getting Used to Child at College
Parents often get worried about their children going to college. Moving out from home and heading to other city creates rather stressful situation. Coping with it means that you are ready to go on living and really understand that sooner or later that may happen and children will grow up. That’s a result of being successful parents. And that means that you’ve done your parental task in the best way possible. But all in all overcoming stress is easier when you exactly know what to do.
First of all, try to create an atmosphere of great day and a new adventure when child is packing bags and especially on the moving day. Give your kid and yourself confidence that everything is fine and that’s just one more step to an adult life and moving forward to the great future.
Try not to make a Shakespeare’s tragedy out of simple saying goodbye. Especially when you’ve unpacked at the dorm room and it’s high time for parents to leave. Sure, that’s a touching moment of your child living alone, but that’s life, you have to adjust and make your kid sure that everything is going to be great. That will be more helpful for first days at college and getting used to dorm life. Be sure that supportive parent’s speech will help a lot to feel sure and not to worry about staying alone when relatives are far away.
Never be Annoying
Prevent yourself from annoying calls, messages, video calls. Let your children choose by themselves whether they need to call you this or that time or not. Personally I often called parents while walking home from classes – it took me about 20 minutes to get home and it was just enough to have a chat with mom or dad about daily or weekly events. So give your child a chance to grow up: to have free time, to be busy within campus, to have hobby and simply to enjoy college years.
Now it is the right time to get used to living with one missing person in your house. Everything is reminding about child at college: empty room, empty spot at dinner table, less clothes in laundry basket. Everything is different and a bit scary. Look at that from a positive side: make cleaning of empty bedroom, enjoy reduced queue near the shower in the morning and sense the great feeling of having less mess at home.
I should tell you even more: if you have younger kids, enjoy the moment of having more time for them. Pay more attention to their problems and understand that life doesn’t end when children are moving out. If you’ve got one child who just went to college – devote some time to yourself: plan a vacation, spend time with your husband or wife just having fun (sure you deserve that). Go hiking, organize a road trip to some interesting place, visit a place from your dreams you always wanted to.
Life never stops so each of us has to be glad and proud of our children going to college. Making such a great step means coming to adult life, becoming wiser and ready to make own decisions in life.